SIA SoCal Retreat 2015
- Growing a Grounded Centered Self: Safely Exploring Our Feeling Selves and Experiencing Emotions (Melanie)
Using a “feeling wheel” and participating in a group exercise called a “feeling floor check” participants will practice identifying, articulating, and sharing emotions that may have been too frightening or painful to experience alone and be supported to identify, experience and talk about positive and self-affirming emotions as well.
We who have experienced trauma often have trouble tolerating emotions and feelings. Trauma shuts down our emotional selves – for many of us any emotion may be overwhelming; any experience of feeling may be frightening and disregulating. When triggered we withdraw, isolate and disassociate, or explode, act out or self- medicate.
For many of us every day is a cycle of getting triggered, shutting down and just waiting for the feeling storm to pass. We are too frightened and often too exhausted to spend time just exploring our feeling selves so we let our feeling selves fall into a kind of dead-while-alive state and just remain numb.
The goal of this group exploration is to gently encourage a reawakening of our emotional selves. The more that we can safely explore our own feeling selves and tolerate our emotions, the more we will be able to bring ourselves back into balance when triggered, experience more real time emotional regulation, experience a sense of order, balance and well-being, experience connection and receive comfort and affirm that all of our feelings are acceptable and worthwhile.
- Safety First Workshop Guide
- Experiencing Emotions Guidebook
- Sculpting Light from Night Round 1 (Kathy H)
- Finding a Loving Higher Power & Inner Parent (John+) (Also here as as a
ePub book, a Word doc, and web page)
- Making the Unmanageable Manageable (Rosa)
- The Treasure of Discomfort (Shobha)
- Play to Heal—Improvisation & Recovery (David)
- Unknotting the Triggers that Bind Us (Kathy D)
Ever feel like you hate your loved ones when they do something you don't like? You may be triggered! Learn a process to get to the source of your intense feelings. The process allows for the parts of self that are triggered to express their thoughts and emotions. Then the adult self can use the insight gained to help vulnerable parts direct anger and hurt at perpetrators, not those we interact with in our present lives. This tool can be used for growth individually or with a partner and gives us somewhere to go with reactions that feel out of proportion.
- Trigger Process Handout